Strong Moms Empower Not Judge
Since becoming a mother I’ve learned that for what ever reason it seems that we (mothers) always have some kind of advice to offer other mothers, even what it’s not requested or asked for in the first place. Everyone knows what’s best for you and your children and some people just don’t hold their breathe with the comments (advice). Like when I was pregnant with my oldest I had HG, it was horrible I was in and out of the hospital and when my doctor out a feeding tube in my arm to help provide nutrients to my body, the hits just started rolling in. So many people especially other mothers would brag around me about how they are so happy they could eat all they wanted and they only vomited once the whole ten months, people would joke about how (my bag-pack that hide the liquid food flowing into my veins) didn’t match my outfit and it just got even worst around the holidays. Just once I wished that one of those moms would say to me “Wow, I couldn’t imagine what you’re going through but I commend on you being strong and doing what you have to for the well being of your unborn child.” Yes a compliment instead of bragging or making jokes at my expense.
It was the same thing when I decided to breast feed my second child past the age of one. I get it and I totally understand that breast feeding is not for everyone and it’s a decision you have to make for yourself but even mother’s that breastfed before would comment on how creepy it was and tell me stories and friends of friends who got bitten by their children (older than nine months) they continued to breastfeed. One mother said I was starving my son. Totally false because our pediatrician always said our son was going great and as along as he was eating table food he would be just fine. I breastfed till my son was two and I wouldn’t change that decision for anything in the world. If that bothers anyone I could care less.
As a mother I want to empower other moms and not judge them. That’s why I think that strong moms empower, not judge. It’s not my place to judge the parenting choices even when I don’t agree. I’ve learned as a mother that I don’t always have the answers, sometimes my house will look like a hurricane or tornado hit it, I may not feel like cooking dinner every night, I can lock my self in the bathroom because it may be the only few minutes of “me” time I get in a given day, I won’t always get eight hours of sleep, I can and will cry at times, some days my children will take all the life out of me and other they breathe life into me. There’s so much that I could go on and on. My point is that no two people are exactly the same. We all are different and we all make different choices but sometimes it’s best to remember the age old saying – “If you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all.” So I encourage you if you’re a mother to next time instead of judging or making a joke or hasty comment try to empower other mothers. Click the button below and pledge to be a strong mom.
Disclosure: I was not compensated for this post in any way. As a member of One 2 One network I chose to take the pledge and help spread the word about this very important mission. One2One Network has partnered with theStrongMoms® Empower campaign, brought to you by Similac, to help create a more supportive and less judgmental environment – one that empowers moms to feel good about the decisions they make for their children and families.
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