If you ever have a chance to have this conversation with my husband he would immediately tell you that his wife (me) is a PRUDE! That’s right I take pride in being a prude. I like to think it has everything to do with being lady like and such and nothing to do with me being shy. I have three children and I can’t imagine how the talks will go when its time for the birds and the bees. I guess that’s where daddy will have to do his job. I don’t talk about sex in public and I even have made up names when I talk about it with my own husband. Yes you read that right. I’d like to think it has nothing to do with me being childish either but I think it’s time to take a step to over come some of that shyness. Do you have an issue with sexual shyness like me? This is my first step in working on overcoming some of that shyness and working on having healthy conversations about sex. Here are some tips from sex expert Dr. Yvonne:
Tip 1: Analyze what’s holding you back so that you have a good sense – vs. a general sense – of the barriers you need to overcome in claiming your sexual self and sex life.
Tip 2: Knowledge is power, w/ a number of lovers insecure about their sexual expression b/c of ignorance. So educate yourself on techniques, erogenous zones, modes of seduction… in boosting your confidence and expanding your repertoire of ideas.
Tip 3: Determine if your issues require extra assistance. If, for example, you’re shy about sex b/c of religious messages you received growing up or b/c you were violated, then working through such issues with a certified sex therapist or counselor will do you a world of good. (You can find one in your area at: www.aasect.org.)
Tip 4: Get to know yourself. It’s hard to express yourself or let a lover know your likes and what you want unless you take the time for self-exploration first. Read erotica for inspiration re: scenarios. Flirt with different ways to get turned on, to seduce, and begin the process of foreplay. You will feel more self-assured in providing instruction, even if it’s non-verbal.
Tip 5: Boost your body image. For some, the biggest challenge to getting in a sexy state of mind and letting that be known is how a woman feels about her body. You can start feeling better about your form with regular exercise (as this has mental health perks as well), eating healthy meals, avoiding toxins, and shutting down negative self-talk. Do things that make you feel good about the skin you’re in, like yoga, getting a massage, or wearing clothes that feel like they were made for you.
If you have any questions feel free to contact Dr. Yvonne via this form.
Head over to the Astroglide website because they are giving away free samples and there is much more information for you about ways to have better sex in 2013.
Disclosure: This is a sponsored post written on behalf of Astroglide.
Nickida
Nickida is a first-generation Trinidadian American wife and mother of four. She enjoys sharing recipes from her childhood growing up in Trinidad with her readers. Nickida has a son with Autism and shares posts around traveling with a child with special needs to help other families like her own. She loves television, movies and is a true 80's baby.
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